Dating a woman with abandonment issues

Some anxious individuals have never known the security of feeling safe and that the people they loved would be there for them. And so when they grow up and find someone who meets their innate needs to be loved, they try to hold on as a child holds onto a security blanket. Desperate love can turn to anxiety, anger and then out right hate. Fear states can induce a lack of trust of themselves, of others and for some, God.

The same conversation happening over and over again, the constant fear, or dealing with being pushed away or being pulled too closely. After someone has been damaged time and time again, especially in the same way they automatically assume that the next will be just like the others. If they deal with abandonment issues or anxiety they assume and greatly fear that their new love will leave. And they are genuinely sorry for being like this. Things can get intense at the most random times and it might get overwhelming to deal with. Listening to what they have to say can hurt and become very disheartening.

If your ex is still attracted to you and in love with you, then No Contact will hurt her and she might want to get you back to feel better about herself. On the other hand, if she dumped you after losing respect, attraction and love for you and no longer has an interest in you, then she will probably just move on and not look back. The thought of losing him forever makes me feel sick, so it must be a sign that we should get back together.

She has trouble trusting. Every relationship that mattered to her has ended, even the ones she swore would be long-lasting. She is scared of letting anyone inch closer to her, because she expects them to abandon her like everybody else from her past. In her mind, no one stays.